It is not only our youngest that seems to be growing at a rapid rate. Ethan’s pants are starting to look a little short and he is excited to learn everyday. Becca has learned so much in school and constantly amazes us with her maturity and growth.
This past weekend, I needed a new pair of jeans (a size smaller w00t!) so Becca and I ventured to the mall. She finally proclaimed that she would get her ears pierced! I have been trying to pursuade her for years to get it done. However I made the mistake of being honest with her when she asked if it hurt.
I felt like if I told a fib, she wouldn’t trust me in the future. Instead I created an anxiety monster that grew way out of control. She totally wanted to get her ears pierced but could not bring herself to allow the person to do it. For an hour she said she would then backed out. I tried to drag her out of there, but then she would howl and say she wanted to.
Finally she did it. She screamed aloud when they actually pierced her ears (there were two ladies at this point trying to coax her). I was so embarrassed at the drama and time we wasted. However once it was done we both escaped the mall feeling good.
Becca is totally my anxiety kid. She thinks about things way too much, quite often thinking herself out of a situation that could be really fun, exciting or whatnot. It drives me crazy witnessing this, and at times I at a loss on how to support her through.
I am so a DO IT… OOOOoooo …. ROCK ON! kind of girl. I have had several piercing in my lifetime, tattoos … bungee jumped in London, England while there working as a nanny … This hesitate till you do not do it behaviour is so foreign to me.
Granted when she is a teenager and not taking unnecessary risks I am sure I will be grateful.
How do you encourage your kids to go for it? Are you a play it safe type or a rebel?
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One of my kids used to be a bit more careful by nature, but now both of they’re pretty close. I never had to do much to coax either of them through anything, I don’t think
And Becca’s pierced ears & earrings? So pretty!
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I never had to do much to coax either of mine into anything, I don’t think…though my youngest was always a bit more careful than his older brother.
Becca’s pierced ears are so pretty!
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Aw, what a milestone! I’m somewhere in the middle and hope my kids are more like Becca as teenagers!
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I screamed when they marked my ears for holes . . . at 15. And I had my ears pierced at her age and they closed up. And I’m currently wearing studs because I nearly let the holes I got at 15 close up again. Maybe I’m not the best person to ask.
I find this so hard because James had all sorts of odd anxieties (although in other cases, I wish he would have more for some of the physical dangers). Sometimes, pushing has completely backfired (as in, I’m just getting him on roller coasters this year after a back experience at 3) and sometimes it’s been the best/only option. Discerning between the two, when I learn to do that, I’m awarding myself parent of the year.
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I have 5 piercings and a tattoo. I’ve actually been pierced 9 times in my life. I tend to be the jump first ask questions later type. My mother still wishes that I was more the hesitating type. But, then she sits around arguing with my sister because she is the hesitating type. I think there’s just no winning with this one.
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Well Done Becca ;D I remembered my elder daughter just wanted to have hers pierced when she was about 6 or 7 years old and she took in the pain quite well surpringly!!
Now my younger girl is 12 and nope…she won’t have it
Yay Becca!!
Vivian is the same way, anxiety city. I’m in the same position, I don’t know how to help her keep the anxiety at bay and just go for it.
I sometimes wonder if caution isn’t an oldest child thing. It probably depends on the kid. I have to tell you I have LIVED that “I want to do it/I can’t do it” thing…the drawn-out conflict of desires…so I was totally feeling you here.
Our girl was 6 when she got her ears pierced; it took a year before they “healed” and stopped giving all of us fits. Then we figured out she’s sensitive and can only wear gold/silver. In retrospect, I can’t believe it took us so long to cop to that!
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I am more of a just do it kind of girl. I already know that Francesco will be more of a think it over, mull it over, not so sure about it kind. Nicolo on the other hand is a leap before you look kind of kid.
So glad she finally did it. I bet she was happy afterward, the earring are so cute.
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I am more of a go for it kind of girl. Francesco is more of a think it over, mull it over ,not so sure I want to do it kind of kid. Nicolo on the other hand is a leap before you look kind of kid. I am going to have my work cut out for me.
Tell her congratulation of the getting her ears pierced and that they look so cute!
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aaww she was so brave to finally go for it and get it done!