Mean Moms Suck …
… Mean kids Suck - More!
Becca, Ethan and I went to the library Tuesday morning. Normally we only attend Music and Movement on Thursday, but we thought we would check it out. Psha. The mean moms go on Tuesdays.
Normally at the park all the moms chat. I stood there, no one looked at me, I felt like such a looser. Like the outsider. This is the first time since arriving in Los Alamos I have felt that way.
Then to top it off, a kid grabbed Becca off the slide then KICKED her in the chest to the ground! Now I normally do not step into scuffles on the playground. I figure it is healthy for Becca to figure out things for herself. Well Mean Mom decides to say in a UBER fake sweet voice (you know the one!), “Oooo did you both want on the slide at the same time? Oh look you made her sad, say sorry!”
Becca did look devastated. She is not accustom to children that are that brutally mean. I went to her side. The stated “Oh Becca did it hurt your feelings to be KICKED in the chest by that boy”, she merely nodded and asked to leave.
We left to hit Starbucks and as we walked away the mean child screamed in pain. Becca looked back startled and asked me what happened. I told her “Mean kids attract even meaner kids” … Mean People Suck.
I am sick. ugh. I hurt my foot and I am limping. We are spending the day at home. ugh. All around yuckiness.
Well at least the kids are healthy. Becca went for her 3 year old check up. She is practically perfect in every way. Like there was any doubt.
What an awful kid! You showed a lot more restraint than I would have. My mom once dumped sand on a little boy that was being mean to me while I was playing in a sand box.
I think you handled that well - you modelled good behaviour to Becca. I’d have gone overboard, but you were nicely understated.
Dude! WHAT A JERKFACE! And the kid was just as bad. Seriously, if I or my siblings had ever kicked someone, my mom would have been all over us. I’m sorry you had a bad experience. Maybe Wednesdays are better??
OMG!! What a horrible child and a stupid mother. I have yet to encounter anyone like that in the UK but I sometimes had real problems with the lack of discipline in Japan. I was lucky though in that no-one was ever openly violent to Joey. You definitely showed Becca how to handle herself with class though, good on you!
Um, I sat on a kid and my brother bit him. And you just gave me the nice award. Are you going to take it back? He did cut in line for the slide if that makes it any better.
I’m so sorry for Becca. I’m sorry for you too. Good thing you went Thurs. first.
I want to vouch for the fact that not all New Mexicans are mean. I used to live in Farmington, and I was a miserable transplant, too. I missed Colorado. Now, I actually miss people in New Mexico. I don’t miss the state, though. Dry air, too much desert (and I was in the foothills of the Rockies!), and the “Grand River” was a trickle.
I am soo sorry for Becca. Good on her that she did not fight back (as I would have) and great on you for showing her how to stay calm in the storm of anger that I am sure rose up in you (as it would have in me).
I know a hairdresser in ABQ, I will see if I can find out what shop she works in.
Of course she’s perfect! She’s Becca!!!
Mean kids do suck. But they are always taught by mean parents…or mean guardians…either way…the rotten apple doesn’t fall far from the rotten tree.
Hugs.
Oy. Mean moms suck worse than mean kids because they have no excuse.
Oh I hate mean kids! Glad he was crying by the time you left (I’m nice, aren’t I? lol)
Mean moms suck too! sorry you didn’t have a good day.
how’d you hurt your foot?
What a sucky trip to the park, but I am so proud of you for handling it the way that you did!
You are so much more patient than I will ever be I think… I may have really let that mom have it verbally, of course in a nice sweet one so as not to frighten the kiddies ♥
I would have whack the kid. Kidding! I think, I’d have gave him a piece of my mind as I am not as patient as you are
Hope your foot is getting better.
I think you have a brave kid there.
Mike
http://somethingaboutparenting.typepad.com/
What a bully!
It sounds like you handled it well, which was probably kind of hard because I know that there are times when I just want to go off on mean people. It’s one of those things, isn’t it? Mean people just reflect a ton of things about themselves, it makes me feel sorry for them… but not when they do things to kids.
My uncle used to always tell my mum she was too hard on us when we were growing up but my mum retorted by saying at least she could take her kids anywhere and they would be well behaved. My uncle turned out to have the brat of the family!
I despair at how some kids behave these days and the language that comes out of their mouths!
What a rotten day–don’t you wonder how moms who let their kids be mean live with themselves? There is this girl in Grace’s junior high that is just horrid. NASTY, horrible, mean, whatever and she does everything she can to not only hurt Grace’s feelings but to make other girls do it too. Her mom is in the PTA and it’s all I can do to be civil to her when she allows that kind of behavior (you know this girl has done mean stuff in before, I doubt it’s limited to my daughter).
Wish I’d been there–of course then poor Becca would worry about who this strange woman was who kept wanting to kiss her cute cheeks
Lillian has been trained to stand still and let me get my cheek kissing time in on her.
I’m so sorry to hear you had such an awful experience with this other group at the Music and Movement class! That’s terrible!
OOOOOOOOhhhhh. Feeling the pain! Hope you have a great interactive experience quickly!!!!!!!!!
Yup, mean moms make for mean kids. My girls are a bit older than yours so now we are dealing with mean middle school moms and kids. Sometimes right in front of an oblivious mom whose young child did something to mine I would say something like “I’m sorry Abby what that boy just did was mean and it hurt. Make sure you never do anything like that to anyone else.” I usually got a dirty look from the mom but I didn’t care.
Amie
mynewnormal.blog.com
Mean people are awful, : )! I go to a park within walking distance of where we live, and the mothers there are so horrible! I don’t know why they are not more open, wonderful people, but whenever I go, it seems as though there are intentional, psychological cliques that form, and it really makes me sad, : ). It would be nice to at least know why it is that people do not want to be more (if there is unhappiness about life, why not do something about it, : )?), but it seems like there really is no excuse! It is not fair! It is nice to know that there are other moms who notice the unfair attacks of some moms : (!